Words, whether they are fully accurate or not, have power. Power to change your mind, your emotional state, or touch you on a deeper layer. Here are some of my current favorite quotes that, as the subject of this post recognizes, cause literal sensations in my heart.
“Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too – even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom
1. You are not going to fuck up your life.
2. The fear that you are going to fuck up your life implies a million that aren’t true: that you can miss your life, that you aren’t supposed to make mistakes, that you aren’t supposed to have hard times, that you can figure out how to make a decision without loss, etc.
3. This decision will not kill you, but I totally get how awful this is for you. Totally. And I’m sorry you’re suffering so.
4. One thing I say to myself & Peter sometimes that helps: Because I am scared, does not mean that I am in danger. And that’s what i want to tell you: You are scared, but you are not in danger.
5. The most important thing you can do is not to grieve – that will come when it comes. It is to slow down and try to feel your connection to anything – to gravity, to the ground, to the lake, to the weight of your spoon, to a friend’s eyes. If you can keep doing this whenever you remember, you’ll be okay. And if you don’t, you’ll be okay as well. I promise.
“In order to fly, you have to give up the ground you are standing on”.
Top 10 Tips on the Spiritual Path
Once, when the Buddha passed through the city of Kalama, in India, he was asked, “So many spiritual teachers pass through here and provide teachings for us. However, each of them seems to spend most of their time refuting the ideas of the previous speaker. How does one separate what’s true from what’s false? All of these teachings seem good. How do we know whom to follow and what to believe?”
Buddha then gave the so-called Kalama Discourse* and expounded on a mode of critical thinking which one should adapt with regard to spiritual teachings.
The Buddha said: Do not believe a spiritual teaching just because:
1. it is repeatedly recited,
2. it is written in a scripture,
3. it was handed down from ancient times,
4. everyone around you believes it,
5. it is taught by someone who seems to have supernatural or mystical powers,
6. it is what you already have decided you believe,
7. it sounds rational
8. it is taught by a person with a large following,
9. the person teaching it declares that it is the Truth,
10. you are forced to defend the validity of that teaching.
Buddha went on to say that we should only accept a teaching when it resonates with our experience, reason, and heart, and is conducive to the upliftment of all beings, and provides an undeniable experience of our True Self. Only then, he said, should one continue to practice and live up to a spiritual teaching.
“There are two ways to be the light: become the candle or the mirror which reflects it.”
Now it’s your turn. What words and ideas are floating around in your mind and heart these days? Share and comment below.